In one of the groups I am involved in in social media,someone recently asked whether it is right to practice oral sex with your legally married wife/husband.What do you think about this?
Some people ignore the fact that there is a supernatural being who controls the world.Other people want to believe the story of evolution more than how God created the world.From the passage below we see that God has made known His existence very clearly and those who ignore Him will suffer the consequences.
“For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities-His eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen,being understood from what has been made,so that men are without excuse.
For although they knew God,they neither glorified Him as God nor gave thanks to Him,but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.”
Do you acknowledge that God exists?If yes,have you been worshipping Him?Do you appreciate what He has done for you?Can you give an example of God’s eternal power or His divine nature?
Failure to worship God ,failure to acknowledge Him and failure to appreciate Him is what makes the Lord angry at us.
Knowing God is not enough,we need to worship Him.
Its not optional.
We have to worship Him.
If we don’t what happens?
If we do not worship God,we suffer from God’s wrath(anger).He neglects us and does not control us anymore.He allows sin to take contol of us.
Our thinking becomes futile;our foolish hearts are darkened ;We worship idols ;We become sexually impure;We degrade our bodies;We acquire shameful lusts-lesbianism and homosexuality;We acquire depraved minds;We become wicked,evil,greedy and depraved. Romans 1:21b,22,23
Basically,when we fail to worship God,we live sinful lives.
To answer the question about oral sex,I refer to Romans 1:24,26,27
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.
26 Because of this,God gave them over to shameful lusts .Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.
27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another.Men committed indecent acts with other men,and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
Some two decades ago,oral sex was almost non existent in Africa.A few bad boys knew about it and would introduce it to their girlfriends.What has escalated the habit is not these boys,but pornographic videos that are all over the place.The habit has slowly crept into our lives and into our Christian marriages.
The natural way to have sex is man to woman,penis to vagina.
It’s the reason why God made Eve and brought her to Adam.God’s intention for sex was procreation.
God blessed them and said to them ,”Be fruitful and increase in number;fill the earth and subdue it.Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
That’s why in the Bible sex is referred when a man lay with a woman.Most of the time a baby was conceived.The fact that babies were conceived is proof enough that sex was natural and not oral.If it were oral,there would be no babies.
Some examples from the Bible that prove the above point;
So he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her eyes.
Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, and said, “I have acquired a man from the Lord.”
And Adam knew his wife again, and she bore a son and named him Seth, “For God has appointed another seed for me instead of Abel, whom Cain killed.”
4 Then she gave him Bilhah her maid as wife, and Jacob went in to her. 5 And Bilhah conceived and bore Jacob a son.
16 When Jacob came out of the field in the evening, Leah went out to meet him and said, “You must come in to me, for I have surely hired you with my son’s mandrakes.” And he lay with her that night.
17 And God listened to Leah, and she conceived and bore Jacob a fifth son.
When a baby was not conceived it means that the mothers were barren,like in the cases of Sarah,Rachel,Hannah and Ruth.These women were barren in their prime years but later on the Lord opened their wombs and they conceived.
If God wanted to promote homosexuality,He wouldn’t make a woman.He would just create another man.Then the second man and Adam would be gays.
Unfortunately,they wouldn’t be able to procreate and fill the earth.This is because procreation happens in the reproductive system,and the mouth(gut system) is not part of it.
Oral sex is a sinful desire of the heart.It is a shameful lust.
It is an act that people watch gay people do in pornographic movies then they want to try it out.Others are taught by their partners,and they start doing it without considering if it pleases God or not.Other people watch animals like dogs do it and they also try it.Are we dogs?If dogs lick each other,do we have to copy them?Aren’t we original people created for a purpose?Others say its for women to get satisfied,women equality.Does it mean women who aren’t getting oral sex are not getting satisfied? Please! Its all in the mind.First purpose to please God in your sexual life,then you will automatically get satisfied.
This is just my view,what do you think?
God gets angry at us when we ignore Him and do things our way.He gets angry at us when we want to please ourselves more than we want to please Him.When we don’t allow Him to lead us,He surrenders us to sin,that’s why we fall prey to many sins including sexual immorality.
Building Meaningful Relationships,