How is your sexual life?

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Some of us are single,some are engaged,some are married,some are divorced and some are widowed.Depending on which category you fall,how is your sexual life?

If you are single,you are expected to abstain from sex until marriage.Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is not a ticket to having sex.The  Lord expects us to maintain sexual purity until the day we get married.Sex before marriage/fornication is strongly prohibited in the Bible as we see in the passage below:

Ephesians 5:3-5

But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know,[a] that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

Having an engagement ring or being engaged is not a ticket to having  pre-marital sex.When you do it with your fiance/fiancee,it is still called fornication.We should desire to present ourselves before the altar on our wedding day, a living sacrifice,holy and acceptable to God.This is what makes a holy marriage/matrimony.

Marriage is the only state where someone can have sex.Again there is still a boundary,when married,you should have sex with your spouse only and no one else.By spouse I mean someone of the opposite sex as instituted by the Lord.The Lord expects us to keep our marriage beds undefiled and Holy.Do not be tempted by temporary pleasures.Do not be shaken by temporary problems to leave your spouse for another person,this will only make you an adulterous generation which the Lord Jesus condemned in the Bible.

If someone can try to avoid divorce,the better.If you decide you must divorce,it would be honorable to the Lord if you remained single at least until  your former spouse dies.

For the widows wow! If you want sex you should get married again.This should be when the mourning period is over and you have settled.Don’t give up on life because you lost your spouse,God still loves you and has a wonderful plan for you.

For all categories;

Our sexual lives matter to God, to ourselves and to our current or future spouses.

Let us honor the Lord with our bodies.When we do this,we enable Him to dwell in us through the Holy Spirit.When He dwells in us,He is able to lead us in everything we do.

Sexual sin is the only sin we commit against our own bodies,all the other sins are committed outside the body.Let us love ourselves enough to avoid sexual sin.Let us be intentional about our sexual livesLet us be determined  like Job who vowed never to lust after a woman.

Job 31:1

“I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman?

The best gift someone can give their spouse upon marriage is their virginity.However,if you have sinned sexually,ask the Lord to forgive you and begin a new life with a pure sexual life.


Some sexual sins like incest,homosexuality,lesbianism,bestiality are an abomination.If you are involved in any of these,flee! Take off and don’t look back.


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Building Meaningful Relationships,

In Christ,


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3 thoughts on “How is your sexual life?

  1. good for you, stella, to tackle such a delicate ah hem subject! I disagree on the divorced waiting to remarry, part however. Not to trivialize marriage or make it easy to change sexual partners – but because God’s mercies cover all sins as well as those sinned against. He doesn’t wait to pounce and punish those who have divorced and keep them celibate until the ex- dies. Keep doing what you’re doing! PS I was a virgin by God’s grace only when I finally married at 35. Now that’s something I don’t usually say in a comment! Ha! Blessings. s.

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    1. Hello Sue,
      Thanks for your insight on divorce.I am hoping to be enlightened in this area more and more.
      My oh my,you must have been a very good girl to keep your virginity until you got married at 35,,,,,,I feel like clapping.You are an encouragement to this generation.God bless your marriage.Thank you.


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