A Closer Look

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I looked at the word “gentleness” and it looked like something that had dropped from  Jupiter.I seemed to be at a distance with it and it didn’t look familiar.What happened to me?When did I stop being gentle?I knew without a doubt that I stopped being gentle a long time ago.

I looked closer within,I think I had been gentle but not to the extent that was required of me as I read two verses from Galatians 5:22-23,thanks to a bible study that I have been following .You may have a look at it here.

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I seem to have mastered how to love,I know how to bring back joy when I am sad,recently I learned how to be a better peace maker,I know what long suffering means(I’ve been there),I think I have been good but I can get better,I am faithful,I have learnt to control myself-still learning-I need to upgrade in some areas.However,I performed poorly on gentleness.I might have been a little bit gentle to other people,but my very close family members suffered the wrath of my harshness.

I thank God for opening my eyes to see that I was not gentle.In order to be more fruitful,I needed to be more gentle.I started being gentle soon afterwards to my lovely family members.

While studying Ephesians 4, I met the word ”gentleness” again and gave it a closer look.

Ephesians 4:1-6

As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

Gentleness is one of the characters required to make peace,which keeps the unity of the Spirit.

When brothers and sisters live in unity,the Lord commands a blessing,and the family becomes blessed.

Psalm 133

1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!

It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments;

As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore.

We can therefore conclude that the opposite of gentleness does not make peace and keeps us divided,when we are divided,God does not dwell among us,and we do not get His blessings.

The opposite of gentleness grieves the Holy Spirit.

Ephesians 4:30-32

30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Having a closer look at yourself,in what ways have you been fruitful?In what ways do you ensure that you keep the unity of the Spirit?

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In Christ,


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6 thoughts on “A Closer Look

  1. I, too, need to cultivate the fruit of gentleness. 1 Peter 3: 4 is my life verse: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as the braiding of hair, the wearing of jewelry or fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. If gentleness is of great worth in God’s sight, I need more of it.

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    1. Hello Debbie,
      Thank you so much for your answer.Indeed 1 Peter 3:4 brings it out so well. Gentleness is an unfading beauty in the sight of the Lord indeed.Our braided hair can wear out,our jewelry can get old,our fine clothes can get worn out,but our gentleness will never fade In fact as I was writing this topic,I was asking myself where else gentleness is found in the Bible.
      God bless you.

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  2. Makes me think of Psalm 51:17, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.” — In today’s world, it seems like it takes courage to have gentleness. I love being around truly gentle-hearted women. I, too, pray that I be that for others. Nice to meet you, Stella. Glad to connect through #ChasingCommunity. Love the title of your site. 🙂 ((Hug))

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    1. Thank you Brenda,you made me go looking for definition of contrite.I just realized that it takes humility to have a broken and contrite heart.Humility and gentleness also work together.True,in today’s world it takes courage to be humble and gentle.
      Glad to meet you too.
      Thanks for the encouragement of my title,((Big Hug)).


  3. So important… Proverbs says “the law of kindness is in her lips”. Ouch… challenging… and yet, that is one of my goals and I work very hard that it be true of me… and it usually is. When it isn’t, I repent, apologize and work on that area more….. gentleness is the same way. Any of the good character qualities need to have consistent evaluation and work to become great habits. 🙂

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